Quarterlife Center - Counseling for Young Adults

  Valentine’s Day can be a difficult holiday for people. We’ve been raised to think that you need to have a valentine, be in a relationship, or have a special date night planned for it to be special, meaningful, or right. So many people spend a day that is intended to be centered around love, feeling lonely or forgotten. Whether you’ve never had a true relationship, you’ve just experienced a breakup, or you’re simply “dating” because that’s what quarterlifers do, be sure to show yourself some love on this day. Valentine’s Day as a holiday isn’t going anywhere, but you can transform it into a self-love holiday if its traditional definition isn’t working for you. 1. Go shopping If your love language is receiving gifts, plan a little shopping spree. Give yourself permission to splurge on yourself and spend some time on Valentine’s Day shopping for an item or two that you’ve really wanted. Another alternative to shopping is simply buying yourself your own chocolate and flowers. Too man...

  Some people love the holidays. Come November 1, they can’t wait to put up their Christmas tree, invite friends and family over for Thanksgiving celebrations, and host gift exchanges. Yet, for so many others, the holidays can be a difficult time. When you reunite with family you haven’t seen all year (or maybe many years due to the pandemic), you’re often forced to confront topics about your education, career, romantic relationships, and in some cases, trauma. If you’re not ready for that, you’re not alone. If you’re wondering, “How should I approach this holiday season?” Keep reading! We’re here to help with some tips and tricks that can help you feel more at ease during this time of high emotions. 1. Identify how you’re feeling. If you’re having mixed emotions about the upcoming holidays, that’s completely normal. The holidays are already a difficult time for a lot of people, and when you add the complications of a pandemic on top of that, it only makes it more challenging. Take...

  The holidays can be an extremely difficult time for those experiencing infertility. Holiday gatherings can cause  anxiety, sadness, and even jealousy   –it’s hard to see women who are pregnant or  a family   that has the baby that you are longing for. If you are dreading this holiday season, here are 5 tips to make it more bearable: Change of Plans If you are feeling overwhelmed by holiday festivities this year, it is okay to change your plans. Think about the parts of the holiday that are important to you this year and consider ways to prioritize those experiences and ditch the rest. Detox Social media and photo holiday cards can be especially triggering for some during the holiday season. Consider going on a digital detox and limiting your exposure during the holidays. If you find you are having difficulty, make a plan for opening holiday cards, which can include waiting until after the holidays to open them, or opening them with a friend or partner present....

  Creating a successful romantic relationship requires focus, creativity, and flexibility. Quarterlife couples   often have additional stressors on their relationships typical of young adulthood, such as geographic moves, navigating a long-distance relationship, financial instability, career insecurity, and shifts in social life. With so many transitions, it is common for couples to lose sight of the fact that relationships require nurturing, Here are 3 ways you can improve your relationship. 1. Prioritize self-care. Taking care of yourself emotionally and physically is ultimately your own responsibility. If you find yourself frustrated with your partner for not attending to you and your  relationship   enough, first check in and make sure that YOU are taking care of yourself enough. When we aren’t adequately nurturing ourselves, we often look to our partner, to fill in those gaps that are ultimately our own responsibility. Before talking to your partner about what h...