Quarterlife Center - Counseling for Young Adults

In this article, I will show you how you can feel happier and more satisfied in your life, by using a straightforward, simple 4-step exercise. Also, writing a  personal vision statement  can be very helpful. WHY DO YOU FEEL THIS WAY? In psychotherapy, one of the most important questions I urge clients to ask themselves is “WHY?” So, WHY do so many people feel lost and unhappy? Very often, they have been living on autopilot, allowing the “outside-looking-in” perspective define for them what is important rather than asking what really matters to them–what THEY want and need in their lives. As a result, their outer life is inconsistent with their inner life (who they are and what they are about on the inside). Additionally, expectations from others, like parents, professors, bosses, friends, and the larger culture, are very influential and may interfere with finding out, and staying connected to, what they really want and need. In order to live a deeply satisfying l...

Are you thinking about starting premarital counseling? Our QLC Counselors are dedicated to supporting you as you prepare for your marriage. Exploring important topics before marriage helps couples prevent future conflicts and pave the way for a deeply fulfilling marriage. Here is some information about how it works. Premarital counseling usually includes 3–6 counseling sessions and addresses topics like communication, love languages, conflict resolution, emotional and sexual intimacy, finances, and childrearing. Please feel free to share with your counselor any issues that you’d like to address; this will enable us to tailor the sessions to your specific needs. The following questions address many of the important topics that are covered in premarital counseling and the most common challenges that married couples have. What are your feelings, thoughts, and beliefs about marriage? What is (was) your parents’ marriage like? How would you like your marriage to be? Would...

Have you been thinking about starting therapy? Unsure how to select the right therapist for you? Or perhaps you’ve already scheduled your first appointment. You may still have questions about how this all works. People often want to know what therapy is really like and what to expect when they go to their first appointment. In this post, I share my responses to the most common questions that I’ve received during my years as a psychotherapist. The following information will simplify the process of finding the right therapist for you. Q: Why therapy? Can’t I just talk to my friends and get the same advice? Leaning on friends and family certainly can be helpful.  That said, therapists are professionally trained to help you explore and discuss your difficulties and develop solutions to your particular problems. They have expertise in helping you express and evaluate your feelings, focusing entirely on you without bringing their own needs into the mix. Psychotherapy is a ...

Are you struggling with a career choice? Do you feel stuck in your job and unable to make a move? Are you having problems with your boss or co-workers? Are you feeling unmotivated? Do you want to improve your productivity and concentration? Do you know where you want to go in your career, but don’t know how to get there? Or maybe you are unclear about where you want to head? For many quarterlifers, figuring out your career, and finding a job, is one of the biggest stressors. Whether it’s the job you have, the one you wish you had, or the one you have not yet imagined—thinking about it probably consumes a lot of your time and energy. We know that there are unlimited career issues that quarterlifers deal with, and we are skilled at helping you figure it all out. Our philosophy is that career coaching is a partnership between therapist and client. Here are some of the ways career coaching can help you: Explore your passion and purpose Identify your career goals Achieve your ...

Why People Ghost and What To Do If It Happens To You Tired of Getting Ghosted? Dating is not easy. This is something I hear often in my work with quarterlife clients. They describe the ups and downs of dating, their nervousness on first dates, and doubts about whether the other person wants to see them again. In dating, you are consumed with questions like: Will we play games or can we cut through the bullshit and just be real with each other? Is there a future for us? Did I get too drunk? How soon can we have sex? I’ve been hearing a lot about ghosting from clients lately. What is ghosting? It’s when the person you are dating abruptly disappears and stops texting (because, as I’ve been told, no one makes actual phone calls anymore). Ghosting often occurs after multiple dates, sometimes even after months of dating. A recent book of poetry written by Samantha Jayne entitled  Quarterlife Poetry perfectly describes ghosting. _____________________________________________...

Why People Ghost and What To Do If It Happens To You Tired of Getting Ghosted? Dating is not easy. This is something I hear often in my work with quarterlife clients. They describe the ups and downs of dating, their nervousness on first dates, and doubts about whether the other person wants to see them again. In dating, you are consumed with questions like: Will we play games or can we cut through the bullshit and just be real with each other? Is there a future for us? Did I get too drunk? How soon can we have sex? I’ve been hearing a lot about ghosting from clients lately. What is ghosting? It’s when the person you are dating abruptly disappears and stops texting (because, as I’ve been told, no one makes actual phone calls anymore). Ghosting often occurs after multiple dates, sometimes even after months of dating. A recent book of poetry written by Samantha Jayne entitled  Quarterlife Poetry perfectly describes ghosting. _____________________________________________...